Wedded Wednesday with Pastor Don & Lisa Smith

What if marriage advice didn't have to feel like a lecture or a counseling session?! Well, welcome to a weekly coffee date for your marriage that we call "Wedded Wednesday". I am Pastor Don Smith along with my wife, Lisa we are right there in the trenches with you, this podcast takes the pressure off "perfect" and puts the focus on purposeful.

Our desire is to give you Bible-based tools to work on their marriage, not just in it. Each week, we get real, keep it lighthearted (because marriage is hard enough without being stuffy), we want to leave you with one practical challenge to actually use before the next Wednesday.

Whether you are in a great season or barely holding on, pull up a chair, get a cup of coffee, and let’s be intentional together.

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Celebrating Success

July 15, 2026 • Don Smith • Season 1 • Episode 10

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In this episode of Wedded Wednesday, Pastor Don and Lisa Smith talk about something every marriage needs but few practice consistently: being your spouse's biggest cheerleader. Not a critic. Not a fair-weather fan. A genuine, loud-and-proud supporter.

📖 Scripture Focus – Proverbs 8:30-31

"Then I was constantly at his side. I was filled with delight day after day, rejoicing always in his presence, rejoicing in his whole world, and delighting in mankind."

Don points out that this scripture reminds him of a cheerleader—someone who is constantly present, full of delight, and rejoicing in the presence of others. That's the picture of what we should be for our spouses.

🏈 The Cheerleader Analogy

In sports, the cheerleading squad wears the same colors as the team. They're united. They celebrate every touchdown, every turnover, every good play—and even when the team is down, they cheer harder to rally them.

But in marriage, we often do the opposite. We criticize. We complain about the little things. We even join in when others are critical of their spouses. As Lisa puts it: "Negativity is contagious, just like laughter and joy."

🧠 Why We Miss the Successes

Lisa admits she tends to be more critical. She's a "glass half full" person who has to work harder to notice the good. And here's the problem: we're often looking for the earthquake—the big, Hollywood moment—and we miss the little things that really matter.

Picking up shoes
Watering the plants
Making it through a tough workday
Just showing up

Every accomplishment is an achievement. And every achievement should be celebrated.

⚠️ The Danger of Not Celebrating

Don makes a bold statement: "We gravitate toward the areas we are celebrated, and we withdraw from the places we are not celebrated."

This is why people become workaholics—because that's the only place they feel valued. This is why spouses emotionally disengage—because home feels like a place of constant criticism instead of celebration.

Lisa adds: "When we're just tolerated, that's not fulfilling."

💡 This Week's Challenge

For the next seven days, find ONE thing every day to celebrate about your spouse. Share it. Be loud about it. Watch what happens to the environment of your marriage.

Don promises: "I guarantee you the environment is going to change." It might not be a lightning bolt, but a little spark can cause a fire.

Lisa adds: "Write it down. Write down how you felt and how they responded. Over time, you'll see the progress."

📣 Practice Makes Perfect
Don reminds us that cheerleaders practice every day—they only perform once a week. In the same way, we need to practice celebrating our spouses daily. When we do, our spouses will lean into us for encouragement instead of looking for it elsewhere.

💬 The Bottom Line
Marriage isn't as complicated as we think. As Lisa puts it: "You just have to be intentional." Be the one who cheers louder than anyone else. Be the one who delights in your spouse. Be the one who makes them feel like they're winning.

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Don Smith 0:09

What if marriage advice didn't have to feel like a lecture or a counseling session? But welcome to a weekly coffee date for your marriage that we're calling Wedded Wednesday. I'm Pastor Don Smith along with my wife Lisa, and we are right there in the trenches with you. And this podcast takes the pressure off perfect and puts the focus on purposeful. Our desire is to give you Bible-based tools to work on your marriage, not just in it. Each week we get real, we keep it lighthearted because marriage is hard enough without being stuffy. We want to leave you with one practical challenge to actually use before the next podcast. Whether you're in a great season or barely holding on, I want you to pull up a chair, get a cup of coffee, and let's be intentional together. How you feel this morning? I feel good. Are you ready? Because I got I got a good one for us today.

Lisa Smith 1:06

You always say that.

Don Smith 1:08

I got a good one. I got a good one for us today. So I'm trying to find us on Facebook. Oh, well. Myself. All right. I never can find anything on Facebook. I don't know how to use social media. How do people do that?

Lisa Smith 1:19

Which is funny because you're a little Mr.

Don Smith 1:21

I'm not podcaster. Well, podcasting is a little bit easier than I think social media, to be honest.

Lisa Smith 1:28

Do you really think so? Yeah.

Don Smith 1:30

Why? I don't know. I just think it's easier. I just don't understand social media.

Lisa Smith 1:35

What don't you understand about social media?

Don Smith 1:36

I don't understand how to use it. It doesn't make there's no instructions. There's zero instructions. Pull up Instagram. Where are the instructions on how to use it? Now that the young people just know, oh, just touch here, just touch there. I'm like, who told you that? There's nobody. But we're telling you that. Listen, I have to watch YouTube videos to try and figure out how to use Instagram. It's crazy. I know, right?

Lisa Smith 1:57

You are really making yourself very old.

Don Smith 2:00

I am old. I'm glad to be back here on Wedded Wednesday, and we are glad that you all are joining us, whether you're joining us on Facebook Live or whether you're joining us on the podcast one and all. Welcome. Welcome. Hey, if it's your first time on Wedded Wednesday, where you been? We've been, we've been waiting for you guys, right? It's good. Do us a favor though, as uh each Wedded Wednesday appears, just uh, you know, share it on your Facebook. If you're Facebook Live, share it on your social media if you know how to use social media. I don't know how to use social media, but I know that there are some people who do, and that will help us out, right? But for today, you don't have you don't have a lot going on today.

Lisa Smith 2:44

What do you mean I don't have a lot of things?

Don Smith 2:45

I must have had too much pre-workout this morning before I went to the gym.

Lisa Smith 2:48

Maybe I have no clue what you had.

Don Smith 2:50

You want some?

Lisa Smith 2:50

No. No, thank you. That stuff makes my ears burn and itch. No, thank you. Yeah, I don't want that.

Don Smith 2:57

I got some good stuff too. You were just talking and I was letting you do it. That'll make you happy.

Lisa Smith 3:02

That's all.

Don Smith 3:02

All right, I got a scripture for us today. Y'all ready?

Lisa Smith 3:05

Ready.

Don Smith 3:05

Are you are you ready?

Lisa Smith 3:06

I think I am.

Don Smith 3:08

Yeah. Okay. Okay. We're gonna see if you're ready. I don't know if you're ready or not. Here we go. All right. Here we go. Scripture is from Proverbs chapter 8, verse 30 through 31. Okay. Are you ready? Uh then I was constantly at his side. I was filled with delight day after day, rejoicing always in his presence, rejoicing in his whole world, and delighting in mankind. I like that scripture. You know why I like that scripture?

Lisa Smith 3:37

Why do you like that scripture?

Don Smith 3:38

Because it kind of reminds me of a cheerleader.

Lisa Smith 3:43

Okay. Like you go to the sports games. When you started reading that, was yeah, my husband would like for me to be by his side.

Don Smith 3:50

See what I'm saying? See what I'm saying? Right there. Cheerleading. You go to the games, and and where does the pep come from? You know what I'm saying? The cheerleading. Either the audience is cheering on their team. Did you hear me cheering you on this? Yeah, see, even last night, I played Church League softball, even last night, you know.

Lisa Smith 4:08

Yeah when I told you to straighten it up.

Don Smith 4:09

Yeah, when I was not doing so well and got thrown out at second. I I I heard you not cheering. I was safe, by the way. Anyway, wasn't I know.

Lisa Smith 4:24

But wasn't worth fighting and arguing.

Don Smith 4:27

Anyway, uh, let me ask you as married peoples, husbands and wives. Okay, here we go. Here we go. Here we go. Okay, so let me ask you this. Um, when is the last time that you delighted in the accomplishments of your spouse?

Lisa Smith 4:43

Oh that's a good one. I did last night. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Like this morning.

Don Smith 4:51

Okay, this morning.

Lisa Smith 4:52

Thank you for watering the plants.

Don Smith 4:53

Oh, see, I was out early watering all the plants. Yeah, all the stuff outside.

Lisa Smith 4:57

Even my porch plants, y'all.

Don Smith 4:59

Yeah.

Lisa Smith 4:59

So I haven't had to do it for over a week.

Don Smith 5:02

How important how important do you think that that is to be a cheerleader in your spouse's life?

Lisa Smith 5:07

I think it's crucial.

Don Smith 5:09

How how detrimental do you think it is when um couples are the opposite?

Lisa Smith 5:19

What do you mean the opp uh when they don't uh cheer each other on?

Don Smith 5:24

Instead they're more critical. Critical.

Lisa Smith 5:26

Yeah. Um well I think things can go downhill pretty fast. And that's that's the way it's criticism after criticism, um, negative after negative, okay, without any any boost, yeah, uplifting and encouragement. Yeah, it can be discouraging for everybody.

Don Smith 5:48

So you would say just like in a sports world where the fans and the cheerleading crew and the team are really uh two entities joined together. Like they're doing, they're there for the same purpose, okay? To encourage and to win. Right? Right. So when when's the you know, you you rarely see, I don't think I ever have, uh you rarely see the cheerleading team, you know, uh doing cheers about how bad their team is stinking it up on the field, you know, like no, they need encouragement, like we want to win, right? Even when you're down, yeah, even when you're down, right? Like we what do we chant? Defense, defense, right? Right. Uh uh, you know, this is your your your place to be in encouragement.

Lisa Smith 6:36

So if that's the way, then marriage It's not like we go, yay, yay, our team stinks.

Don Smith 6:42

Yeah. But we do that in marriage. We do. How many times do spouses go to work and talk to someone who's not their spouse about their spouse and they say what? Yay, yay, my spouse stinks.

Lisa Smith 6:57

Stinks. Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Don Smith 7:01

Hello, somebody. Right?

Lisa Smith 7:03

Like that happens a lot. I remember that happened a lot when I was working.

Don Smith 7:09

You mean you did that or or you heard that from other people?

Lisa Smith 7:13

I heard that a lot. I heard that a lot from other people.

Don Smith 7:16

Think about it today. Even in your world, if you're watching Facebook Live or if you're listening on the podcast today, wherever you're listening at, however you're listening, it today as you start your day, or if you've ended your day, just think about it. Okay. If you're starting your day, pay attention. See how many times you notice someone says something critical about their spouse.

Lisa Smith 7:33

Or even how often you say something critical to your spouse.

Don Smith 7:38

Well, that's a good one too. Or at the end of the day, think back now. If you're listening at the end of the day, think back now how many times someone said something critical about their spouse. Okay. And how contagious that is.

Lisa Smith 7:49

It is because well, negativity is contagious, just like laughter and joy.

Don Smith 7:54

So instead of cheering on our spouses, we wound up, we wound wound up, we wind up cheering on those who are being critical of their spouses. Right. Yeah. Because we join in.

Lisa Smith 8:06

Yeah, I agree with you. Yeah, my husband does that too. So I can't believe yours does that too.

Don Smith 8:12

Then marriage is the joining of two lives, right? Uh, and I think every hopeful part of those two lives becomes one. Dreams, um, desires, goals, all of those things. And so as you work jointly together to those goals that you've set, uh you realize that your delight comes not only in moving closer to your dreams, but also in celebrating the successes of your spouse.

Lisa Smith 8:46

Yeah. I think it's important to do that.

Don Smith 8:49

Think about it right now, if you're listening to us, because this is really good. Um when's the last time that you celebrated the success of your spouse versus when's the last time you were critical?

Lisa Smith 9:05

I tend to be more critical. And I I realize that about myself. You know, um I am the black and white, I can be the glasses half full kind of person. So I have to work a little bit harder to not be so critical and be able to express a need or whatever is not being met at that moment, whether it's a shoe on shoes on the floor. I mean, I we uh we use that often because I think that's just an easy analogy to use. You know, when I I realize some things are a lot deeper than just shoes or laundry. But that's just an easy way to share with people, you know, that I can complain about the shoes on the floor constantly, but I don't tend to say, Well, thank you for putting your shoes up over there or thank you for doing this, and and appreciating those things. Because why is it sometimes that we don't we don't recognize the success of our spouse?

Don Smith 10:17

I I think that's the I mean I think that's the thing.

Lisa Smith 10:20

It's usually let's celebrate.

Don Smith 10:22

It's the point of today's wedding Wednesday.

Lisa Smith 10:24

Let's let's celebrate their successes, but how come we can't see that success?

Don Smith 10:30

Is my question. Because oftentimes we're we're blinded by our own frustrations of of what we don't see uh as what we're not receiving that or success in that. We I think we want the huge successes and not the littles, and we so it blinds us from seeing the little bitty everyday successes, which is like the little ones I'm sorry, I think the little ones mean the most. Yeah.

Lisa Smith 10:57

Because again, shoes on the floor, dishes in the sink, those are kind of little.

Don Smith 11:02

Yeah.

Lisa Smith 11:03

If in the scheme of life, it's little.

Don Smith 11:06

But it's not little in the heart of your spouse. It's not. When the rest of the world does everything it can to beat your spouse down every day. Think about whether you're you're a husband or a wife, you go to work, okay? And uh what is work? It's just trouble. Yeah. I mean, I it's it really is. It's just it's just trouble. Uh work is struggle. Uh and I mean that's that's the curse, I I think, uh, you know, from the fall of man is it now you're you're gonna struggle, right? So that's what God said to Adam, thorns and thistles. Now you're going you're gonna struggle, right? Uh, work is going to be struggle. And so uh, you know, your your spouse goes to work all day long and has to fight the struggle because, you know, the bottom line or the goal or you know, the work, the project, the pressure, all of the things, right? Because you're paid to do a job and obviously you're paid to do that job because it needs to be done, but there's there's always a struggle to get that done. Whatever it is, it doesn't matter if your spouse has a very physical job or if they just have an office job, not very physical. It doesn't matter. There's still a struggle. So everything in life is designed or not designed, but it is is bringing struggle into your spouse's life. And you're the only person, you're the cheerleading squad. No one else is going to cheer on your spouse. No. Except for maybe someone who's doing it inappropriately.

Lisa Smith 12:30

Right.

Don Smith 12:30

And that's a whole different thing. Right? Like, what would happen in a sports game, okay, if one team's cheerleading team began to cheer for the other team? Oh, you're off of this cheerleading. See what I'm saying? Like, or if they're fans, what happens? We've seen sports games where fans turn on their own team because they're not happy they're gonna be able to do that. They're not doing well. Yeah, and they're not doing well. Does that does that help them make the next play? It does not. And so what are we doing in our spouses' lives that help them?

Lisa Smith 13:01

Don't be a fair weather fan to your spouse.

Don Smith 13:04

Let me say this to us.

Lisa Smith 13:05

Be dedicated.

Don Smith 13:06

Here's what I think every accomplishment or every every yeah, every accomplishment is an achievement.

Lisa Smith 13:11

Yes, it is.

Don Smith 13:12

Whether it's watering the plants, yeah, okay, or put not leaving their shoes in the floor.

Lisa Smith 13:19

And I did notice the other day when you picked all your shoes up and moved them, but I did not get an opportunity to tell you thank you.

Don Smith 13:27

Right now, live in front of the whole world, you can go right ahead.

Lisa Smith 13:29

He did that. It was like three or four pairs of shoes. They were all, and I just was like, you know what? I'm just not gonna mess with it. Not out of frustration. I just didn't have the energy or whatever. So I was like, don't worry about it, just leave it all alone. And then the other day I noticed some stuff were in the garage, and those shoes were not there. I went, whoa.

Don Smith 13:49

There's a reason that the cheerleading squad uh for a team wears the same colors as the team. Mm-hmm. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Uh because we're we're together. You know what I'm saying?

Lisa Smith 14:04

And it shows it shows a unity.

Don Smith 14:06

It shows the unity. It shows every and let me just say this to married people every achievement or every accomplishment is an achievement that should be celebrated. So whatever, whatever it is right now that you and your spouse are working on in your marriage. And if you're not, you should be. You should be intentionally working on something. That's what the point of Wedded Wednesday is, is every week we want to give you something to work on. Right. And so last week we gave you something to work on, okay? This week we're gonna give you something to work on. If you're not being intentional in your marriage, okay, uh to grow, you are intentionally deciding not to grow. Oh, we should we should write that down. That was that was good.

Lisa Smith 14:46

It will it will start to dissolve. So why not you don't just stay stay, what is it, sta you don't just stay stagnant. It does disintegrate.

Don Smith 14:57

100%. So why not, since we're wearing the same colors, why not find something to celebrate? Right. Every day, not just once a week. No, but what's what's one way that you wake up every morning for the next seven days and you decide to challenge, challenge, here's the challenge, and you decide, all right, I'm gonna find one thing. That's all your spouse needs. One thing to celebrate today. One thing to celebrate. And and watch what happens in the environment of your marriage for the week. Because all of us need someone to cheer us on, and really the best person to fill that role is the spouse. Right. And let me tell you why, because I'm gonna be a little bit more.

Lisa Smith 15:41

I mean, it's good coming from other people about, but I'm talking about like friends. Okay. I'm not talking about opposite sex people. Sure. Because some some marriages they do relied on their same-sex friends. Sure. You know, and they can become your cheerleaders, but that doesn't fulfill that one spot that it comes from your we gravitate towards the areas we are celebrated. It's true.

Don Smith 16:10

Which true. We gravitate where we're celebrated and we always withdraw from the places that we're not celebrated.

Lisa Smith 16:18

Now when we're just tolerated, that's not fulfilling.

Don Smith 16:22

Yeah, most people are quick to give their spouse um, you know, uh a non-encouraging word.

Lisa Smith 16:28

Well, that's a lot easier to do.

Don Smith 16:30

Isn't it? You don't have to think. You just speak out of frustration. You just speak, it just comes out, it's natural. It we're we're but sometimes, right? What we need to do is we need to express joy um in the in the achievement it because every every accomplishment is an achievement. Okay, whatever it may be, even if your spouse says, Hey, good job, you can turn right back around and go, Wow, thanks. I really that's an achievement, both of those are achievements, okay? Both of those are encouraging goals, right? And I think that what happens in those moments, like there's genuine delight in accomplishment, right? That gets recognized.

Lisa Smith 17:12

Yes. And then I think there's a desire to do it more, to do something.

Don Smith 17:18

Why why do people turn into why do people turn into workaholics sometimes? Because that's the only place they're celebrated.

Lisa Smith 17:25

Do you think so?

Don Smith 17:26

Uh 100%.

Lisa Smith 17:27

I thought work was stress.

Don Smith 17:28

It is, but even in the stress, if there are moments of celebration, you'll graduate to that because you what you need that celebration, and it's worth the stress if you get it. But what happens is if it's stressful and there is no celebration, you quit. Okay. You resign. Gotcha? All right. Is that not true? Yeah. I mean I mean, I know dudes, right? I I'm a dude. I know, I know guys, right? We're going to engage in the areas where we win, and we're not, we're going to disengage in the areas where we feel like we always lose.

Lisa Smith 18:04

Right.

Don Smith 18:04

That's I don't care. I don't care if a guy is a really outdoorsy guy. You can't, I mean, you can see some of the background here in my office slash studio. Uh, but yeah, no, I've got I've got animal mounts around and all the good stuff, like outdoorsy guys, or maybe there are some guys who really aren't like outdoorsy guys. They're just, you know, they're it it that has nothing to do with what a man really is.

Lisa Smith 18:28

No, it doesn't.

Don Smith 18:28

Okay, but I do know every man, regardless of whether he's a really outdoorsy guy or he's not an outdoorsy guy. I don't know if that really explains what I'm trying to say. But I know that all men gravitate to where they're celebrated and they disengage from areas where they're constantly criticized.

Lisa Smith 18:49

I think it can be the same for women.

Don Smith 18:50

Uh one hundred percent. Now I can't speak for women because I'm not one, but you can.

Lisa Smith 18:55

But I think when a man emotionally gets disconnected, that's more harmful for the woman.

Don Smith 19:04

For sure.

Lisa Smith 19:05

Because I think women need emotional connection. I but men tend to disengage from emotional connection if they're always feeling criticized.

Don Smith 19:16

I'm gonna make you a promise today. I promise you. Watch what happened in seven days if you find one way to be the cheerleader and celebrate for the next seven days, every day, one day, one way, every day. I guarantee you, if you think your spouse has been disengaged. No, no, for sure.

Lisa Smith 19:35

Because they're gonna know when it's free.

Don Smith 19:37

For sure. And I mean, that's the point of this when trying to change behavior, genuine behavior. Uh, but that's the point, right? I guarantee you the environment's gonna change. Uh, you know, it might not be like a lightning bolt or you know, a huge bonfire, but a little, little progress, a little change goes a long way.

Lisa Smith 19:54

A little spark can cause a spark.

Don Smith 19:57

Correct. And uh I hope here's the thing. I I'm just a dude and I'm addicted to winning. Sorry.

Lisa Smith 20:05

I hate losing.

Don Smith 20:06

I hate losing. I am addicted to winning, and I will throw everything that I have, every ounce of energy into the areas that I feel like I win.

Lisa Smith 20:16

Right. And I will literally quit. I agree with that.

Don Smith 20:20

I will quit and walk away from the areas where I feel like I always lose. Not do it anymore. And I I'm not saying that's right or wrong. Okay. I'm not given permission. I'm just saying I know what happens.

Lisa Smith 20:32

I think it's wrong for someone to quit. 100%.

Don Smith 20:36

Uh but yes. But I know what happens to us when we don't get celebrated, and when we do get celebrated. And I promise you, there's something. If you're a married person, there's something in your spouse's life that you can celebrate. Yeah, right now you might be thinking, oh, you but you don't know our house. You don't know. There's something.

Lisa Smith 20:54

If you look for it.

Don Smith 20:55

If you look for it, there is something. Right. And you don't have to pretend. You can be genuine about that. And it you're but the problem is the reason you can't see it is because you're looking for the earthquake, okay, or the lightning.

Lisa Smith 21:07

It's the soap opera moment.

Don Smith 21:08

Right. You're looking for all those things, and you're missing the little things that really should be celebrated.

Lisa Smith 21:14

Well, sometimes we miss it because we've already predetermined.

Don Smith 21:18

Yeah. That's so good.

Lisa Smith 21:19

By past behavior or or lack of effort. So we predetermine that they will not do whatever.

Don Smith 21:30

That's so good. This was I'm just gonna be honest, this turned out better than I thought it would.

Lisa Smith 21:35

Well, I'm glad.

Don Smith 21:36

I am too. I was this turned out a lot really good. That turned out a whole lot better than I thought it was gonna be great. Or you were just gonna be one of those.

Lisa Smith 21:42

I was feeling salty today.

Don Smith 21:43

Well, you got your salty shirt on, but that's all right. I I married you because I like salty, so it's a scripture. Okay, here's the deal, right? Here's what we're gonna do. Have you delighted in the accomplishments of your spouse? And and This is the challenge. Okay. Now's the time to do it. Every day till next wedded Wednesday, set the next seven days. I want you to find one thing to celebrate about your spouse. Find one thing and and share. I bet you can find more than one. Share those feelings. Don't just go, oh well, yeah, that's good, and not say anything. Right. See, the reason the cheerleading squad is there is because you can hear them.

Lisa Smith 22:22

Well, you gotta be loud and proud. You gotta be loud, right?

Don Smith 22:26

And uh I I remember our daughter was a cheerleader, right? And and their squad was loud, and they would get the we'd go to the football games and and they would get the whole crowd involved, right? We're from the South, and so Friday night football, high school football is crazy. Stadium would be full, packed house, right? I mean, there'd be thousands of people there. And that that I remember those games. Oh my, that you'd have to get there an hour early to get a seat. Those games were amazing. It was a high school football, and the cheerleaders would get the whole home crowd going. It would be so loud, your ears would be ringing after the game. And it was all because the cheerleading squad started it. Started it.

Lisa Smith 23:06

Yeah.

Don Smith 23:07

And they celebrated everything, right? Touchdown, they celebrated. Turnover, they celebrated. When we were on defense, they were, you know, they were deep on rooting defense on. Uh and that really, and that was a good little team, right? Like Chipley High School uh in Chipley, Florida, is where our our daughter went to school. And that was a great, they had a great football team. Yeah. Friday night was the place to be in Chipley, Florida, to watch football. Uh, it was amazing. So what that's what we want to do, right? Share it. Be loud about it, okay, and uh spend spend some time telling your spouse uh how much you enjoyed that. Yeah.

Lisa Smith 23:45

Maybe And maybe you'll even get maybe you'll write a song. Maybe maybe you'll get really, you know, you'll get addicted to complimenting. Being children, the cheerleader that not only does your spouse hear it, think about that people hear every day. Every day. That's a good point. We'll close on this.

Don Smith 24:04

When when our daughter was a cheerleader, they had practice every day. They only had a game once a week. Right. They practiced every day to be the cheer squad for one night. Ooh. Seven days. Seven days find something to cheer your spouse on about and watch the environment of your marriage change. I promise you.

Lisa Smith 24:33

I would write them down and I would even write down how you felt and maybe how they responded to you sharing.

Don Smith 24:42

It's great.

Lisa Smith 24:42

Just so you can see progress over a period of time about how it changed from the first time you did it, especially if your marriage is struggling. You know, so you can see. People want to know how to fix it. This is how you fix it. Yes.

Don Smith 24:58

I'm telling you, it's not as complicated as we think it is to fix marriages.

Lisa Smith 25:02

No, you just have to be intentional.

Don Smith 25:04

There we go. All right. Well, let's pray for them. Here we go, right? All right, Lord, we thank you for the shared joy of delighting in each other. Help us, God, uh, to practice, practice, practice being our spouse's cheerleader.

Lisa Smith 25:19

Thank you, Lord, that you are the one that can give us unity in our marriages. And Father God, we just release our marriage to you completely. And Father God, I pray that each person can see their spouse through your eyes, Father God, so that they can have compassion, give grace and mercy to them, Father God, and help them see their spouses in a way that they've not seen before, so that they will be able to become the biggest cheerleader in their lives, that their spouses will always lean into them for encouragement and for strength. And Father God, I just thank you for it in Jesus' name.

Don Smith 25:55

Amen. Amen. Hey, thanks for being with us today on Wedded Wednesday. We love these moments. Uh, in a few weeks, we're gonna be going on tobacco. It's been a long time. Our leadership came to us at the beginning of the year and said, Hey, we want you to take six weeks off. So that's gonna start in a few weeks. And so uh Wedded Wednesdays will be out for those weeks. We'll let you know, okay? But there's plenty to listen to on the podcast and all those things. But we do need you to do us a favor. I actually think this is probably the best one in a long time. I feel good about this one. So we need your help. Would you share this on right that on your social media?

Lisa Smith 26:30

Because he doesn't know how to.

Don Smith 26:32

Go to Spotify or Apple Podcasts, wherever you listen to Podcast app, look for Wedded Wednesday with Pastor Donna Lisa. Okay, you'll see it there. Uh, follow, subscribe, and then copy that, paste, and post it in there as well. So there are a lot of people who don't know that Wedded Wednesday is actually a podcast.

Lisa Smith 26:50

Yeah, but it's just started, so there's not a lot in there.

Don Smith 26:53

It's a podcast, so you can go back and listen to this as many times as you want to.

Lisa Smith 26:56

I thought we had some on YouTube.

Don Smith 26:58

No. From they're all gone.

Lisa Smith 27:00

COVID times.

Don Smith 27:00

No, they're all gone. So uh, yeah, so we we started this, but we need your help uh to get continue to get this off the ground. And there's some links on there, right? Uh you can click on those links and buy us a sweet tea and a little Debbie snack cake if you want to. Just click on that link. Or if you think this is worth supporting, you could be a monthly supporter. Uh there, all those links are in the show notes on the podcast, not on the Facebook Live.